So let’s talk about this photo. This shot was taken in September, 2016, by my friend Sam (IG: @helloitsmesami.) By that point I was booked well into 2017, and confidence was beginning to creep in where anxiety and worry had lived. I was really doing this! I was a full-time photographer. So I had my first headshots taken, and I used them this business for about 5-6 months. You see, at the time this thing was my solo project, only bringing in Nicholas or my friend Amanda when a second shooter was added by request. But on January 30th in 2017, with more than 40 weddings booked for that year, two little pink lines found their way into our world. I was pregnant, and due right smack dab in the middle of the busiest wedding season, ever.
Having been pregnant twice before and knowing full well how my body responds, I chopped my hair off. For one? I shed like a sheepdog when I’m pregnant. For two? Post-partum hair loss and thinning is a real thing, and it looks healthier when kept short. And three? Babies like to pull hair. I haven’t looked remotely like I did in that headshot session since that pregnancy took off, to be honest. But damn, that was an exciting time in my journey and I felt good (and looked good; hey there blue hair!). So I kind of love that photograph.
Given my ‘delicate’ state, for most of 2017, whether a couple had chosen to add one or not, I brought a second shooter along with me. Being due at the end of September, I was super pregnant for the bulk of summer/fall season. It was crazy. Nicholas and Amanda pretty much split weddings down the middle at my side. As we continued to book into 2018 I realized that I really freaking liked tackling a wedding day with a partner, pregnant or not. I had found a great rhythm with both of them, but unfortunately (for me) Amanda was going back to school to finish up her teaching education. She would become decreasingly available, so I started pulling Nicholas on wedding days more often.
Over the last two weddings season, we’ve found ourselves recollecting at the end of the day, maybe on the drive home, talking about how great the couple was, mentioning the moments and shots that we both knew we absolutely killed behind the camera, and confessing that there’s a certain charm and ideal to spending these days capturing love stories, while working alongside our husband/wife. It makes the days more emotional and meaningful, for sure. For example, now that we have a daughter between us, every time that we’re capturing the father/daughter dance at a reception, my favorite thing is to keep an eye on Nic while we shoot. He’ll start tearing up 9 times out of 10, and I kind of adore that about him.
Oh, and last weekend we arrived to the venue before the wedding party did, and we went inside to capture details and kill some time until they would be there. Nicholas took me by the hand and we slow danced together on the empty dance floor. It was kind of magical, and very a unsurprising, but always surprising, Nic thing to do. Who wouldn’t want to spend every weekend with that kind of man on their team? My passion has become his, too, and I’m totally okay with that.
Here’s the real deal though: Every time we’ve discussed this idea of Nicholas becoming more involved in the business, we hit a wall with family members who don’t support the idea, (they basically compare it to being a stay-at-home-parent, which has me like “What exactly do you think I do all day then?”) or we circle back to the healthcare dilemma. You see, Nic’s day-job income combined with that of the business keeps us comfortable. But whe business could see us through our monthly bills, with no problems. The big losses for us would be the splurges we enjoy (like way too much eating out) and the obvious and brutal necessity that is: health insurance. The quotes we’ve received have been astronomical, so for now he keeps his 9 to 5.
Day job aside, at this point it’s more than fair to say that he is the other half of Life Since You. I basically handle all the editing during the day like it’s my personal 9 to 5 (when I’m not chasing around an almost-toddler), and then he comes in with his camera for the weekend warrior gig. We just bought him a desk, and he’s learning how I edit so that he can help out when he can. He’s continuing to grow his video skills, too, and we’re still throwing around the idea of bringing videography into the fold. Amanda and another gal we’ve decided to hire on are even lined up to assist on larger projects we have planned down the road. We really hope that one day we’ll be sitting across from each other in this office space— both of us working from home every day, both of us scheduling sessions. Buying our first home this summer with a down payment that came entirely from this business was definitely a highlight, and a reassurance that we could make this dream a very real thing if we can budget and plan for the slow season (and insurance) well.
But for now we’ll put the needs of our family first— and Nicholas will settle for being a part-time full-time partner. But hey, that’s enough of a stake in this business to warrant some headshots, don’t ya think? Fortunately we were able to schedule those for this weekend, and we can’t wait to share them with you!